Mixed Emotions During The Holidays - 10 Unique Ways to Cope

It's that time of the year again when the air is filled with holiday cheer, twinkling lights adorn the streets, and the aroma of freshly baked cookies wafts through the house. For many, the holiday season is a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness. However, it's important to acknowledge that not everyone experiences this time of year with unbridled enthusiasm. Mixed emotions can arise, and it's essential to find unique ways to cope.

It is not uncommon to feel a number of emotions including excitement and anxiety, along with a sense of grief or loneliness. It is important to acknowledge and validate these feelings, as they are valid and normal. One way to navigate this emotional rollercoaster is by practicing self-care and self-compassion. Take time for yourself and engage in activities that bring you joy and comfort. It can be helpful to reach out to trusted friends or family members who can provide support and understanding. Additionally, consider seeking professional help if the feelings of anxiety and grief become overwhelming. Remember that it is okay to feel a range of emotions during the holidays, and by taking care of yourself, you can navigate these feelings with resilience and strength.

Here are ten suggestions to help you navigate the holiday season:

1. Embrace Your Feelings

Give yourself permission to feel whatever emotions arise during the holidays. It's okay to experience a mix of joy, sadness, nostalgia, or even loneliness. Acknowledging and accepting your emotions is the first step towards finding peace. While accepting that you feel down, lonely, angry or going through grief is not going to resolve it, the acceptance is a step towards healing. Pushing your feelings to the side is only effective in the moment, but long term will make them bubble over. A lot of people struggle with difficult emotions over the holidays so accepting it could actually help bring you closer with other people in similar shoes.

2. Practice Self-Care

Amidst the hustle and bustle, don't forget to prioritize self-care. Take time for yourself, whether it's indulging in a bubble bath, reading a book, or going for a walk in nature. Remember, self-care is not selfish; it's essential for your well-being. Self care also does not need to be cheesy. Watch a movie and decompress, or buy that pair of shoes that's been in your cart for 3 weeks. Do things to bring some level of normalcy, stability and pleasure into your routine.

3. Create New Traditions

If the holidays bring up painful memories or feelings of loss, consider creating new traditions that resonate with you. It could be volunteering at a local charity, hosting a potluck with friends, or taking a trip to a place you've always wanted to visit. Find activities that bring you joy and create new memories. Most cities have events that go on during the holiday season. Find new things to do and look forward to so you are less focused on what you are missing and more focused on the experiences you are having now.

4. Reach Out for Support

If you're feeling overwhelmed, don't hesitate to reach out to a trusted friend or family member. Sometimes, talking about your emotions can provide solace and help you process your feelings. Remember, you're not alone, and seeking support is a sign of strength. You would also be surprised to hear how many people share the same challenges and need someone to connect with this holiday season.

5. Practice Gratitude

During challenging times, cultivating an attitude of gratitude can be transformative. Take a moment each day to reflect on the things you're grateful for, whether it's the love of your family, the beauty of nature, or the simple pleasures in life. Gratitude can shift your perspective and bring a sense of peace. You can focus on what and who you are missing, or focus on the amazing things you are fortunate to have an experience.

6. Set Boundaries

It's important to set boundaries during the holiday season to protect your emotional well-being. If attending certain events or gatherings feels overwhelming, give yourself permission to decline invitations or limit your participation. Remember, it's okay to prioritize your mental health. It is okay to leave early, it is okay to not drink, to not hug people, or to arrive after dinner. Telling people ahead of time "I have to head out right after dinner tonight" will set the boundary and expectation for everyone. People may get offended or hurt if you just leave but will be far more understanding if you let people know ahead of time. Boundaries are not to hurt others but to protect yourself. You know your limits and it is important to effectively communicate those to the people you surround yourself with.

7. Engage in Mindfulness

Practicing mindfulness can help you stay present and grounded during the holiday season. Whether it's through meditation, deep breathing exercises, or simply savoring a moment of stillness, mindfulness can help you navigate the ups and downs with greater ease. Mindfulness can sometimes be a bit of a "buzzword" but it truly just means being in tune with your mind and body. Whatever that means for you, that is what you need to prioritize. Be intentional about how you spend your time, who you spend time with, how you take care of yourself and how you decompress.

8. Express Yourself Creatively

Engaging in creative outlets can be therapeutic and cathartic. Whether it's writing in a journal, painting, playing an instrument, or dancing, find a way to express yourself creatively. Channeling your emotions into art can provide a sense of release and healing. You do not need to be a professional artist to water color or make a collage. Make a mood board or re-arrange a room in your home.

9. Focus on What Matters Most

Amidst the chaos, remind yourself of what truly matters to you. Is it spending quality time with loved ones, spreading kindness, or practicing self-love? By focusing on your values, you can find meaning and purpose during the holidays regardless of what they may look like. Prioritize things that make you feel good, whether that is making a donation, recharging at home or having a karaoke night with your friends. Your priorities do not need to look like anyone else's.

10. Seek Professional Help if Needed

If your mixed emotions become overwhelming or persist for an extended period, consider seeking professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide guidance and support tailored to your specific needs.

Remember, it's normal to experience mixed emotions during the holiday season. By embracing your feelings, practicing self-care, and seeking support when needed, you can navigate this time of year with grace and resilience. May your holiday season be filled with peace, joy, and a renewed sense of hope.

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